Fifty days ago, I published an article entitled, What is Social Media Doing to Us?. In it, I shared many of my concerns about social media and its effect on me personally as well as the concern I have (and others have) for the young people who are growing up in a culture where social media is normal and not new. Many of us recall the not-so-distant past of having to call someone to talk to them. We remember going to a friend’s house or a family member’s house and looking through photo albums of their recent trip. Life has changed dramatically.
Relationships are supposed to be messy. The wounds all over me are proof. But no one told me to expect them. I always thought relationships were supposed to be good all the time, otherwise, you’ll have to end them. When things get tough, you’re supposed to run, grudge, and, when applicable, break up. I caught that, I wasn’t taught that. No one sat down and told me. I simply watched and listened.
They say you’re not supposed to discuss money, politics, or religion. Why? Because those topics can cause arguments. But what if that entire premise isn’t a reason to avoid those discussions? What if the very reason why they say we shouldn’t discuss those topics is the very reason we should? By the way, who is “they,” anyway?
Recently I watched a video clip of leadership expert and author, Jim Collins giving advice to young leaders and one of the things he said stuck out to me for many reasons: “What is your questions-to-statements ratio and can you double it?” And to that question, I ask another question: Are you a curious person or a complacent person? There really aren’t other options. We’re all somewhere on this sliding scale between curiosity and complacency.