Red circle with a number inside it. Just visualize it in your mind. You feel better already, don’t you? You feel good. At least I do. And that reality is making me sick inside.
Relationships are supposed to be messy. The wounds all over me are proof. But no one told me to expect them. I always thought relationships were supposed to be good all the time, otherwise, you’ll have to end them. When things get tough, you’re supposed to run, grudge, and, when applicable, break up. I caught that, I wasn’t taught that. No one sat down and told me. I simply watched and listened.
They say you’re not supposed to discuss money, politics, or religion. Why? Because those topics can cause arguments. But what if that entire premise isn’t a reason to avoid those discussions? What if the very reason why they say we shouldn’t discuss those topics is the very reason we should? By the way, who is “they,” anyway?
Recently I watched a video clip of leadership expert and author, Jim Collins giving advice to young leaders and one of the things he said stuck out to me for many reasons: “What is your questions-to-statements ratio and can you double it?” And to that question, I ask another question: Are you a curious person or a complacent person? There really aren’t other options. We’re all somewhere on this sliding scale between curiosity and complacency.
Have you ever heard something like this? “You’ll have to excuse him, it’s just his personality to be emotionally aloof, socially offensive, and unapologetically jerk-ish.” We can agree that sometimes people use “personality” and personality tests as excuses to have poor character, yes? But is there any value in personality tests for Christians?
When God has you, every part of you, hold on tight. He’s going to take you for a ride. Eric Metaxas, in his biography of Dietrich Bonhoeffer entitled, Bonhoeffer: Pastor, Martyr, Prophet, Spy shows us what God can and will do through a person who surrenders his/her will at the feet of the cross. If you have not read this book, I plead with you to do so.